Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreign.
[00:00:08] Speaker B: Welcome to 3564, a podcast for middle agers. I love funny content. Do you love to laugh? I certainly hope you do. It's the best thing to have a good laugh. In fact, they say it makes you healthier. So when I was scrolling on Instagram recently, I came across the funnest account about middle age. They are two women, Lisa and Suzette, and they run a channel called Midlifers. Oh, my goodness. They are absolutely hilarious. They bring the funniest angle to everything.
Middle age. I am so thrilled that they're here today to chat with us. Welcome to the show, Lisa and Suzette. It is so good to have you.
[00:01:04] Speaker A: Thanks. Thanks for having us. We're really excited.
[00:01:07] Speaker B: I have been following your stuff on Instagram for quite a while now. Every time I see it, I am bent over laughing. Gosh, that doesn't sound right, does it? I am laughing and I love your content. Can you guys just really quickly both just introduce yourself, tell us your ages and how you started. Started this midlife content.
[00:01:31] Speaker C: I'm Suzette. I'm 53, and Lisa and I are neighbors. So we see a lot of each other and we are just. We just decided to dip our toe in the water when we saw that there wasn't a lot of content out there for people our age. We like social media, we consume social media, and we figured, gosh, there's probably lots of people like us that really want to be, you know, connected in that way. So we just decided, you know what, we're going to go for it. Why not us?
[00:01:59] Speaker A: Well, we found that there was a lot out there on fashion, food, fitness for people in our age category, but there wasn't a lot of truth and fun. And so we thought, gosh, our bodies are falling apart. We're talking about it all the time to each other, and we're laughing. What if we just opened up the audience a little bit and started finding out what others say and we get a comment. The comments we get a lot are often, nobody told me this. And we're like, nobody told us. So we thought we'd just share this giant secret between 40 and 65. What's happening?
[00:02:31] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, I. I absolutely, totally agree. As does the thousands and thousands of followers that you have that love your stuff on a daily basis. I am, like, out there all the time online. I love podcasts, and I found almost zero content directed towards living your best midlife. A lot of it, like, was very niche on, like you said, nutrition or fashion or dating. But kind of mixing everything together and taking a positive spin on it was super, you know, non existent. So that's why I started the podcast. But I love the reason why you guys do things. You both love to laugh, right?
[00:03:16] Speaker A: Oh, yeah, Yeah. I mean, if it's happening to us, we might as well. We might as well lead and laugh with it and then figure out what's gonna happen next.
[00:03:25] Speaker C: And we're most entertained by ourselves.
[00:03:28] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:03:29] Speaker C: We're like, well, if we're laughing, at least we are enjoying it. If nobody else thinks it's funny, that's okay. But we think we're hilarious.
[00:03:35] Speaker A: We do.
[00:03:36] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:03:37] Speaker A: Midlife is also an interesting time because we have, you know, when you're in your 40s, you've got friends that are having babies and you've got friends that are becoming grandparents. And it's this interesting mix of friendships that are all over the place. Suzette has three kids that are 21 and older, and I have all three kids at home still. I still have an eight year old. And so we are very much the eclectic age group of midlife.
[00:04:04] Speaker B: Yeah, that's a really good point. We're all over the board. I know friends of mine who, who are still trying to have children. Some who are like, shop was closed a decade ago, my friend.
You know, it is all over the board. We have so many different life experiences coming at us. It is, it is quite an interesting time. But I think both, well, all three of us could agree that laughter helps you get through anything. So let me ask you, you two a question. I don't know who wants to take the question, but what is the funniest thing that has happened to you recently about being older, about middle age?
[00:04:47] Speaker A: This could take a long pause because the list is so long.
[00:04:52] Speaker C: I feel daily like I'm like, oh my gosh, that's such a midlifer thing, you know?
[00:04:57] Speaker A: She sent me a text this morning and said, I'm ironing my shirt. And I said, nobody irons anymore. What are you doing every day? There is material, but we did last year, we both went in for our colonoscopies, not together, but like a day apart. And that was quite the experience of. I ended up passing out with the prep work because I was so dehydrated. And so I was found on the bathroom floor. And the experience there was quite comedic. Yeah, right. Because everybody warned me about the day of, but not the night before. And there I was after getting out of the shower. Sorry, son. That found me.
So there's, I think Every day we do something. Like the other day, her husband was like, oh, this is a great bag. Did you see this bag we just bought? Like, he bought something that was fantastic. Couple hundred dollar item. But he was admiring the bag and I'm like, we are in midlife. We think a bag is better than the product we just purchased.
[00:05:57] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh. I so love it.
[00:06:00] Speaker C: Yeah. I think when you open your eyes to all the things that are happening and look at it with a sense of humor, you could turn this on his head and be like, oh, I used to be able to do X, Y, Z and I can't. And now we're like, oh, my gosh. No, no, that's a hard pass from my body. Do not do that.
[00:06:18] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:06:20] Speaker C: Kind of flipping the script a little bit.
[00:06:22] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah, for sure. So colonoscopies. I actually, I. I had one a few months ago. My first.
[00:06:29] Speaker A: Welcome to the club.
[00:06:30] Speaker B: Yeah. I wasn't quite sure what to expect. Lots of my friends had gone through it. I had seen my parents do it, and I actually. This is so crazy. My dad, he is in his 70s and he was like, make sure to pay for the sedation. And I said, what the heck? You didn't pay for sedation?
And I don't know the total background of all this, but he said, no, 20 years ago, I didn't. I was awake. And I just. He said, I, I, he went into detail about the extreme feeling of needing to detail dad, you know, immediately. And I was like, oh, my God. My dad didn't pay for sedation for a colonoscopy. That's crazy.
[00:07:17] Speaker C: So crazy.
[00:07:18] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:07:19] Speaker A: But that's thrown in nowadays. They just throw that in.
[00:07:22] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:07:23] Speaker A: It's a great nap is what it is.
[00:07:25] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:07:25] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh, that's so crazy. Okay, so I have fun questions for you too. What do you think about Botox?
[00:07:33] Speaker A: Ooh, go pro.
[00:07:34] Speaker C: Love anything you can do that makes you feel comfortable in your own skin, go for it.
[00:07:40] Speaker A: We are.
[00:07:40] Speaker C: No judgment here.
[00:07:42] Speaker A: Yep. And I actually, I had Bell's palsy a couple years ago where your face freezes and people have said, oh, that's just like Botox. And I thought, I don't think I can do that again. Right. And so for different reasons, but we have talked about doing a reel about going in and getting Botox because we have so many friends who've really enjoyed it and really appreciate that the lines in their lips or the forehead lines are lessened. They like to look at themselves better. So go do it.
[00:08:09] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah.
[00:08:10] Speaker A: I think there's just a different embrace all over the spectrum. We have talked about the fact that the two of us fear going gray, and we go to great lengths to not go gray. And then we've met women who have embraced their gray, and they're stunning. They're just stunning. And what is the sexiest part of all this is confidence. So if Botox helps you feel that confidence, if gray hair or colored hair or getting your eyebrows done or whatever it does, or being outdoors and being strong and a great hiker, whatever makes you feel that confidence that is sexy in midlife. Because the people I want to be around, we're all a hot mess. Right. Everybody's. It's just, what? To what degree? You're a hot mess. And then what if I can embrace your hot mess or you're a little too much for me? And it's the confidence that comes with that hot mess that makes you beautiful. So go find whatever makes you beautiful. You want to get a boob job? Get a boob job. If you want to get new clothes, go do that. If you don't care about your clothes, great. Like, just go embrace you and be that beautiful person for sure.
[00:09:14] Speaker C: And that's the other thing, too, about midlife, which is we've kind of gone over the humps of worrying about what other people think.
[00:09:20] Speaker B: Yes.
[00:09:20] Speaker C: Make yourself happy. Kind of do the things that bring you joy. And I. That's one of my favorite things about this time of life. Just owning who I am. Loving it.
[00:09:31] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:09:31] Speaker A: And the community of midlifers we're coming across are very funny because they, too are saying, oh, my gosh, I didn't know this was going to happen. And now I'm putting it out on social media for the world. We're all laughing. Who feels better? All of us. So Suzette taught me years ago that shame loves the dark. And the more you feel shame, the more you hide whatever that issue is, whether it's weight loss, whether it's your marriage is falling apart, whether your kids are a hot mess, whatever that is. But if you embrace that shame and you get to tell the. You get to tell the story, then somebody else doesn't tell your story. And I think that's what we're saying is there's too much out there telling us how we should act, what we should wear, what we should eat, what we shouldn't eat. We're just going to embrace our own narrative and have fun in the process. And if you don't enjoy laughing, go to the scroll scroll away.
[00:10:26] Speaker B: Yeah. Well, first off, preach on, sister. That sounds like Brene Brown. I don't know if that's who you're channeling.
She's like my, my dream guest. One day, Brene Brown shell be here.
[00:10:38] Speaker A: Did you hear that? Did you hear that?
[00:10:41] Speaker B: I know. She is so awesome. Her content, her books are just the thing. I'll drop a link to some of my favorite books of hers in the show notes. I'll make sure to get yours as well. Ladies, she is absolutely incredible. So what do you think about, like, fashion? And do you think that there's some things that, like, middle agers just shouldn't do?
[00:11:06] Speaker A: That's funny you ask that question because just a couple days ago we popped up a reel saying, what shouldn't people in midlife wear?
[00:11:13] Speaker B: Okay, well, shoot them at me. What are they? Nothing.
[00:11:16] Speaker C: Anything you want to wear is fine. Again, rock it with confidence. You want to wear a tube top and cutoffs, great. You want to cover your whole self, great. Who cares?
[00:11:27] Speaker A: And you don't feel confident wearing something great. Don't wear it.
[00:11:30] Speaker C: Right.
[00:11:31] Speaker A: But I think it goes back to the sexy confidence. And there are plenty of people who feel confident in just about anything and they should be wearing it. Yeah.
[00:11:41] Speaker B: You two are just so sweet and kind. I was going to say, listen, if you're willing, if you're wearing a, like, cutoff shirt, I'm sorry, sister, that's for the 20 year olds. But you two are just so kind and nice. I love it. I love it.
[00:11:58] Speaker A: I found that the people who are in the tube top are usually the most confident. So I'm like, I want what she's having.
[00:12:04] Speaker C: Yeah, right.
[00:12:05] Speaker A: You go to the pool in a resort and I look around and I think, whoa, I want that confidence. Maybe not the bodies, but I want the confidence. Right. And. And it's because of my own insecurities that I'm not wearing the same things they're wearing there. They've got a lot of confidence. Go rock it.
[00:12:23] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:12:23] Speaker B: Yeah, that's good. Well, I know one of your favorite. Well, my favorite reels of yours is about names and, and how you know you're old when your name is no longer being used for infants or, you know, being used when kids are born. Do you think that that's totally accurate? Because I do.
[00:12:45] Speaker A: Oh, completely.
Our names are extinct. We do not have Baby Suzette, Baby Lisa, Baby Karen. They're not coming.
[00:12:54] Speaker B: No.
[00:12:55] Speaker C: How many Jennifers did you have in your class growing up? Karen?
[00:12:59] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh, so many. Jennifer H. Jennifer Z, Jennifer. Y. I mean, and it was like, okay, I better go by Jenny or Jen. Hundreds. It felt like they were all over the school. So yes, that was a huge name. What are some others that were super popular? I'm trying to think.
[00:13:16] Speaker A: Nicole, Megan. Yes, we're all extinct.
[00:13:21] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, Chris, that's just not really used anymore.
[00:13:26] Speaker A: So here's something funny the other day out of, because of this topic, I just scrolled through our followers really quick and there was nearly 100 leases that are following midlifers out of the X number of people. Right. And I thought that was so funny. And that was only on one platform that we have a hundred Lisa's and I don't know a single Lisa under the age of 40. And so that just tells you we are all captured in time. We're frozen.
[00:13:52] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, we really are. What is up with all the names that are coming out now, like alternative spellings? You know, there's 50 ways to now, you know, spell Chris instead of, you know, the traditional. What do you think of that?
[00:14:08] Speaker C: I say go for it. Again, this is the thing. I'm like, I'm not going to yuck somebody's yum. You know, if you love it, go for it. But it really does place you in a certain moment in time. You know, if you see somebody's resume come across your desk and you see somebody spelled, you know, a really unique way, you're like, okay, they're probably Gen Z. They're probably a millennial. You know, again, no shame in that. But I'm sure when people see our resumes come across, they're like, okay, we're dealing with a 50 year old.
[00:14:37] Speaker A: We have, we have people who tell us they look for doctors with extinct names.
[00:14:42] Speaker C: Yes.
[00:14:42] Speaker A: So that their doctor won't be Britney and be 25 or 30 years old. But they're looking for a Susan or a Lisa as a doctor from a first name, knowing that they have to be over 40, which I think is hilarious.
[00:14:55] Speaker B: Oh my gosh, I love that. I, I was actually just sitting in my dentist's chair and I was getting like a regular cleaning and the hygienist was cleaning my teeth and she said, I just wanted to introduce you to the dentist who has taken over this practice. Dr. Schneider retired. And she walked in and I feel bad now. The first thing I said was, oh my, you're so young.
And I didn't mean that as like a slam. I just thought, wow, so accomplished and so young.
And that just kind of like came right out. And she smiled and she was very cordial and I'm sure she's going to be a fantastic dentist. But I didn't mean to say it, but it just kind of like came, you know, what do you think? Is that bad?
[00:15:46] Speaker A: No. Guessing her name was Ashley or ended in an ey. Yeah.
[00:15:51] Speaker C: Well, you have a great bit about, you know, you're old when. And I feel like that's one of those hallmarks of, you know, you're old when you see the professionals around you and you're like, oh, my gosh, oh.
[00:16:00] Speaker A: My gosh, I'm older than you.
How are you a doctor?
[00:16:04] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. I mean, we used to. I don't know about you two and if you started in the corporate world, but I remember feeling young and the one who was inexperienced and had the new ideas, and I'd like to think that that hasn't gone away, but I certainly don't feel like the inexperienced one anymore.
[00:16:24] Speaker A: No, there's definitely a dinosaur feeling every now and again in a corporate workplace where you look around and you realize, oh, I'm the old person in the room.
[00:16:34] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:16:35] Speaker A: I used to look around and wonder who is the old person? Right. And now I'm like, it's me.
[00:16:40] Speaker B: Yeah. I have a funny story for you too. So one of my good friends who I met in the corporate space. Space, she's a few years younger than I am and I'm 45. And she said, you know what made me feel really old? When I went on to a zoom meeting and my chin arrived before my face and I just about died.
And then. Okay, come to find out, and maybe all of you know this, but I'm just going to throw, throw this out there as a news alert. There is like a filter in zoom that you can say it's like soften features or something like this and it makes you like sort of like blurred lines. Did you know that?
[00:17:22] Speaker C: Yes, I know it, but I didn't. I've never used it. So I'm like, you know me, it's me.
[00:17:28] Speaker A: That's what we keep saying. We're like, we. Like, this is us.
[00:17:31] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:17:32] Speaker A: And all those filters, I think give an appearance that you're not perfect just how you are. And yeah, you're great. And I always think it's funny when I see somebody in person. My kids will go, that doesn't look like them. And I think because they over filter their photos.
[00:17:47] Speaker B: Yeah. What do you think of that whole phenomenon? Like, the most perfect photos being posted to Insta and TikTok and like, what is Your take on photo filters and do you use them?
[00:17:59] Speaker C: We don't use them for midlifers and I don't use them personally for my own stuff. But I was just on last night going, ooh, oh, it looked good. Oh, I need. I could do more eyebrow. You know, I like going through the filters and seeing. That's not my aspiration to look like that. But again, I think you'll find that with most things, we're pretty much live and let live. If it makes you happy, great. That is. That's the best place to be in life.
[00:18:24] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:24] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. What do you think is the most surprising thing about, like, middle age bodies? And I'm just not talking about women. I'm talking about in general, Men too. What do you think is. Is like the most shocking thing that we have to deal with?
[00:18:39] Speaker A: The list is long.
[00:18:41] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:18:42] Speaker A: I would say we were a little shocked a few years ago to find out that if you pick up your knee skin and you let it go, it drops. Lower your knees, they just start drooping. Nobody tells you about drooping. Karen has an experience.
Karen, stand up and pull your knee up.
[00:18:59] Speaker B: Oh, no, I am not. I am not. Oh, my gosh. But I'm going to try that later. I have one for you. I want to see if you agree. And I'm going to out somebody. So my mom, poor thing. I used to have a trampoline when I was young, and I always had friends across the street, you know, jumping on the trampoline and like the rare moment that my mom would get on the trampoline, she'd always pee.
She's going to kill me for saying this and. And I'm going to tell you. I have a trampoline in my backyard for my kids. And I was like, oh. Oh, my. Now I get it now. I know I. I don't know what it is, but you just have to pee all the time, everywhere. And it's so easy. This is something that was shocking to me and I think gets worse with age. I don't know. What about you guys?
[00:19:47] Speaker A: We have a motto. It's called freeze, squeeze, and sneeze.
And it's real.
[00:19:57] Speaker B: Oh, my God, that is so good.
[00:20:00] Speaker C: Just, you know, be prepared. Yeah.
[00:20:03] Speaker A: Or don't jump on the trampoline. But we have a trampoline too. So I end up out there and I'm like, this is not good.
[00:20:10] Speaker B: This is not good. This. Danger.
Yeah. Free. Wait. Freeze, squeeze, and sneeze. Yeah. God, that.
[00:20:20] Speaker C: You feel that sneeze coming on. You got a Brace.
[00:20:23] Speaker B: That is. That is really good. I. Do you. Do you ladies deal with, like, back pain and just, like, generalized, like, malaise and, like, feeling yucky, or is that not happening to you yet?
[00:20:35] Speaker C: We have a reel coming up that's kind of funny. It's called, what part of your body can you predict the weather with? You know, like, all those old injuries that you had in, like, high school when you broke your arm in soccer practice and all those kinds of things, now they're really starting to make themselves known whenever you do stuff. I. My knees are just crummy. My back is still good, which is.
[00:20:58] Speaker A: We're both pretty active. Suzette's a big hiker, and I do a lot of other sports. And so I joke that once we hit a certain age, we needed a hot tub and we needed our physical therapist on speed dial, and we needed our Tylenol around, and I wanted to keep playing tennis, and I wanted to keep water skiing, and I wanted to keep snow skiing. And. And can you do that? Absolutely. Does it hurt a little bit more afterwards? Absolutely. And if you take care of your body and you choose to do those activities, you probably do have a physical therapist on speed dial, and you probably do have a few extra remedies at home. We trade. We trade ideas. I'll be like, oh, this rice pack is amazing.
[00:21:40] Speaker C: Lisa has one of those tens units that, like, zaps you. You know, I'm too afraid to do it, but Lisa's like, it's the best.
[00:21:46] Speaker B: Oh, I have an old body. You know, you're old when you have a tens unit. That's. That's for sure.
[00:21:53] Speaker A: Well, you know, you're older when you love it. Like, I will tout that thing. I tell everybody about it. It's the greatest. Nice little therapy. I got lots of tricks to try and keep my muscles moving, because we love to move. Other people may choose to do something else, but, yeah, with age comes a aged body, and especially if you're hard on it in youth.
[00:22:12] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah.
[00:22:13] Speaker C: That's a, you know, your mileage may vary kind of situation. I know there are people in midlife who are really struggling with a lot of physical things that are, you know, significantly limiting what they can do. But in our experience, we're just saying, hey, we can do pretty much almost anything, but we might pay for it.
[00:22:33] Speaker A: We went to an indoor water slide park, I don't know, maybe a year ago, and it's a park that has taken outdoor water slides that would have water, and they put them indoors with no water. And there's mats, and so you're shooting crazy fast down these water slides, and it's not smart, but it was a lot of fun. And it. There's some Tylenol involved.
[00:22:59] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah.
[00:23:00] Speaker C: It was not smart. It was not smart to do, but it was super fun.
[00:23:03] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:23:03] Speaker B: So I. That's funny. I just went to an indoor water park with my son. He wanted to go for his birthday. And I got to tell you, it was absolute hell. And. And I want to say because, one. It just was like, the chlorine smell was almost tox. I felt like I was gonna die from the fumes. And then the. The shade of the water was absolutely a mellow yellow. Um, I don't think the kids ever got out of the water at a single moment. And it was just so gross. I was. This is so gross. I was in the wave pool, you know, like, okay, this is kind of fun. And then I lifted my arms and hair, like, other people's hair was, like, hanging from my arms, and I was.
[00:23:49] Speaker C: Like, oh, my God.
[00:23:50] Speaker B: I was so grossed out. And then I saw, like, a kid in a water diaper. And then I just couldn't. I sat down for a while and tried to regroup so I could be with my son again, but I was really grossed out.
[00:24:05] Speaker A: You say, I'm over 40. I shouldn't be doing these things. And then you're like, well, I want time with my son.
[00:24:10] Speaker B: I know. I know.
[00:24:12] Speaker A: 340. I didn't think about the water diapers. I didn't think about. I didn't think about all those things. And now I'm like, yeah.
[00:24:21] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh. Yeah, that. That was. That was not good. I was like, that will be the last time I go there. Check that box. But, oh, my goodness. It was really. It was a tough experience. I was very happy to be driving away from the facility once our two days was over. But my, oh, my. That was. That was a rough one. I'm impressed. You two sounded like you had a great time at yours.
[00:24:44] Speaker C: It was fun. But again, days afterwards, I got so many rug burns on my. You know, it was.
[00:24:49] Speaker A: Yeah, we'll try anything.
[00:24:52] Speaker C: Yeah, we will.
[00:24:53] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. So this is a. Unusual, but, like, I feel like Colorado is, like, you need these questions, so I'm gonna throw these your way. What do you think of, like, middle agers, folks in midlife, trying to find their life purpose and doing things like ayahuasca?
[00:25:12] Speaker A: Well, again, whatever is your jam, do it. Absolutely. I think with ayahuasca, I definitely say Consult medical professionals because that has different, that's had different impacts on people that have been pretty extreme. So we're obviously living in a place where marijuana became legalized first and early. And so people make choices that work for their lives. You know, trying out gummies, trying creams and things that help their bodies feel less pain. And again, we're not going to yuck anybody's yum. Like, if it is working for you, go for it. Because that's your body, your choices. If it doesn't affect other people. And I just think there's so many different ways to get to happy and whatever gets you to happy. If you live with chronic pain and you find that something can relieve that chronic pain, I can't even begin to understand how amazing that would be. So go for it. If you find something that makes you feel beautiful or you find a community that embraces you and you haven't been able to have companionship, go for it. Find the things that make you joyful.
[00:26:20] Speaker C: A bigger picture is that this is a time of self discovery. You know, you've kind of had those years where you've really devoted yourself to maybe your career or your kids or whatever. And midlife is, can be a really fun time of saying, what else? What else could I do? I took up the drums a couple of years ago because I always wanted to do it and I love it. And we have a thing on our reels that's somebody who wanted to be a nurse and she has grown kids, she went back to school, she became a nurse. I'm like, why not? This is a great time to do some self discovery.
[00:26:55] Speaker B: Yeah, it really is. I think we have a chance to. We care less about what others think. So hopefully that means you're willing to take more risks and we have some wisdom under our belts on knowing what risks are worth taking. What do you two think has been the biggest risk you've taken in middle age?
[00:27:15] Speaker C: I was going to say I might.
[00:27:16] Speaker A: Know yours, but I had a third baby. Yeah, actually had two of my three babies in 40 and 43. So that was a big, big jump and much more acceptable now. But yeah, having kids, I remember one of my best friends, she said I couldn't decide if I was so excited I wanted to cry or I wanted to throw up when I found out for you, like I just couldn't have imagined having a baby at that age. And so that was our biggest risk and it's best reward. So yeah, it's worth it.
[00:27:47] Speaker C: I don't know if I have Any huge risks. My life's been pretty steady. You know, like I said, I wanted to play the drums, so I bought a drum kit and I take lessons every week. Just basically saying yes to more things and not really caring what everybody else thinks about it. I mean, I still care, you know.
[00:28:04] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah, I think we all do.
[00:28:07] Speaker C: All Cole and, you know, cool and calm and whatever. But, you know, there's parts of us that still really. It's hard to get rid of those feelings. But I love this. This phase of life. It's been great.
[00:28:17] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah. What. What has been your top performing post on Instagram. I'm curious what you think got the most traction because your content is so stinking funny. I'm gonna drop a note in the show links to your handle on Instagram because everyone on the show needs to follow it. It will give you daily laughs about real stuff that happens in middle age. But I'm curious what you think was like, your most popular topic.
[00:28:46] Speaker A: Well, so what's numbers wise? Our most top or hottest has definitely been the names, because people have opinions about their names or if they want to be called grandma or not. Those kind of things. Our personal favorite has been Midlifer Confessions. It is us confessing things that have happened to us in midlife, whether that would be. This started because Suzette found a can of carrots in her cupboard that had been like five or seven years expired. And she said, I've always made fun of my parents, and here I am turning basically into them. Here's my can of carrots that has expired. And it was, you know, I love my skinny jeans. And yet I want to stay on trend. And here they are no longer trendy, although they're back again, I hear.
[00:29:28] Speaker B: Who knows if they are blessed? Thank God. Okay, we can talk. Let's just talk about that for a minute. My friends, like, skinny jeans are out. You got to do wide leg. And I'm like, oh, man. Really? I just, like, I have, like, that's my jeans. And so I reluctantly went out and got some. It took me a long time to feel comfortable in them because they just feel like, I don't know, roomy and clowny and. And okay, I got into them. I will say I finally found some pairs that fit. And so I started, like, slowly getting rid of the skinny jeans. Now they're back, which is. I love them. I'm sorry. I do, too.
[00:30:00] Speaker C: They should have never gone anywhere. So. Yeah.
[00:30:03] Speaker A: Well, the confessions that came out from the followers have been like, we will sit and cry in Laughing. Of the, of the comments, I will.
[00:30:12] Speaker B: Tell us some of them.
[00:30:13] Speaker A: One of my favorite ones was the woman who said she couldn't remember the word ankle and so she called it a foot wrist because she was having brain fog. And she's like, I just, I panicked and I called it a foot wrist. And people were like, what are you talking about? And I thought, I can relate to that.
[00:30:31] Speaker C: So many people are saying they've tried to expand something on like, you know, a piece of paper, like they would on their phone or they can't find their phone when they're talking on their phone. Can't find their glasses when they're wearing their glasses. I mean, we've all done that. But you're like, oh my gosh, it's happening to me.
[00:30:48] Speaker B: It is, it is. I. I feel like I used to laugh at older people in restaurants. This is, this happens all the time. And like, you would see like a light shine from a phone and they're like shining on the menu. And. And then like, literally now I will shine the light and take a photo so I can expand the photo to read the menu. Like, I, I literally need to do that at some of these really dim lighted restaurants. But the vision is a real thing that has happened to me. It has just continued to decline, I think markedly in the last like five years. How about you guys? Do you wear contacts or anything?
[00:31:29] Speaker C: I do Monovision, so I wear one contact for reading, but I don't really like that. So I'm always wearing my reading glasses. But I can still drive without my glasses. This is my one, you know, point of pride.
[00:31:42] Speaker A: Well, Karen, we're gonna blow your mind because I don't know if you know, but on your iPhone, if you type in magnifier, it comes up and you no longer have to take a picture and enlarge. You have a magnifier on every iPhone. It's one of the greatest gifts we've figured out.
[00:31:56] Speaker C: Yeah, it's like in the utilities kind of thing.
[00:31:58] Speaker A: Yeah, I know.
[00:31:59] Speaker B: What, what?
[00:32:00] Speaker A: That's what we said.
[00:32:01] Speaker B: Oh my. Okay, well, I'm gonna give that a shot. That's. I had no idea. I guess you wouldn't know until you need to know. So.
[00:32:10] Speaker C: Yeah, that's why we have to have this community. We need to share all the tricks and tips for all the things that we're doing. Like, hey, you don't have to take a picture or, you know, there's, there's ways to, you know, Google lens and all those kinds of things. We got to share this info. So we're all in the know.
[00:32:26] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:32:26] Speaker A: Well, your driver's license can be on your phone and all these simple. So when you lose things all the time, it's only one thing. You have to keep your phone. Lots of things.
[00:32:36] Speaker B: Yeah. Yeah, for sure. Gosh. I was thinking back to the vision piece, and I had something very close to a massive embarrassment, and I was saved at the last minute. But, okay, so I can't see things far away, so I like to bring them closer to myself. So I'm nearsighted, and I have glasses. I don't wear them a ton. I wear them at night when I drive. But I was in this restaurant. It was super crowded. I was sitting there enjoying dinner with my boyfriend, and I was like, oh, my God, there's Sean. And he looked over, and Sean is a friend of mine that lives out of town. Okay, just mark that in your mind. He lives 10 hours away. I'm like, look, Sean's here. I think maybe he has a local office or something nearby. He must be on a business dinner. And Trevor turns around. He's like, that's not Sean. I'm like, that is Sean. I'm gonna go say hi. So in the middle of this conversation, I texted my friend, and I thought it was her husband, and I took a pic. I sent it to her. I'm like, look, Sean's here. I can't believe I ran into him. And I sent the picture to Sean, and I'm like, I'm here. I'm gonna come say hi. He's like, I'm not there. And that person is a hundred more pounds than me. And I. I was. I was literally about to walk up across the restau because this person seemed like they were at, like, a business dinner, and I didn't want to just drop in and, like, go give this person a hug behind them. And I. Not only did I embarrass myself of thinking that it was the wrong person, but I took a unflattering picture of someone and said, look at your hair. And I still. Now, every time, I'm like, look, I think it's so and so everyone makes fun of me because I have very. I guess I think everyone looks like everyone, but I don't know. Does that happen to you? Ladies? Please tell me it's happened to somebody out there.
[00:34:34] Speaker C: I would say that my whole thing in life right now is, like, wrong and strong. Just go in hard and be like, you know what? Oh. Oh, gosh. You know, I. If you had gone up and hugged that guy.
[00:34:44] Speaker A: That would have been just wrong and strong.
[00:34:46] Speaker C: That's wrong and strong. Go for it. You know what I mean? Just own it. It's okay.
[00:34:50] Speaker A: And then there's laughing, and then laughing ensues. You have a good story. Yeah, I just. Every time you're talking, I'm like, you're in the club. I know it's hard to tip it. You've dipped your toe, but you are stepping in it. You're in the club, and it's a fun place.
[00:35:04] Speaker B: I'm going to ask you to some questions. Answer quickly. I have a bunch of them for you, but I want to see if you have or do any of these things that they say middle agers do. Okay. Are you ready?
[00:35:17] Speaker A: Yep.
[00:35:18] Speaker B: Okay. Do you write checks? Yes.
[00:35:21] Speaker A: We both have a lawn guy that only takes checks, so we write a check every month.
[00:35:27] Speaker B: Okay. All right, fair enough. Do you listen to CDs?
[00:35:32] Speaker A: We still have DVDs in the house, but not CDs. DVDs.
[00:35:35] Speaker B: Oh, DVDs. And you can't get rid of them while they're there.
[00:35:39] Speaker A: Why get rid of them?
[00:35:42] Speaker B: Totally.
[00:35:43] Speaker C: CDs. Occasionally, yeah.
[00:35:45] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:35:45] Speaker A: But I love my Spotify.
[00:35:46] Speaker C: Yeah, I do, too.
[00:35:48] Speaker A: You have a playlist on Spotify? Lots of 80s music, 90s music. Go check it out.
[00:35:53] Speaker B: We'll drop it in the show notes for our listeners. If it's a good midlife playlist, why not? Okay, next one is. Do you pick up change on the ground? Yes. No.
[00:36:09] Speaker C: I, I, I don't like carrying cash.
[00:36:12] Speaker A: Oh, that's true. No cash. Yeah. I think it's lucky.
[00:36:15] Speaker C: It is. Like, if it's only if it's.
[00:36:17] Speaker A: Heads up. Oh, that's my luck.
[00:36:21] Speaker B: Interesting. All right. Do you keep things wrapped as long as possible to protect them?
[00:36:28] Speaker C: Probably, Yeah. I would say yes.
[00:36:30] Speaker B: Okay. All right. All right. You know, like, people leave the film of the plastic on things and they don't want it to get, like, scratched. You know, that kind of.
[00:36:40] Speaker C: No, no, no, no. That is not me. My mom had these lampshades when I was growing up that she never took. Took the plastic outing of because she just didn't want it to get dirty or whatever. But yeah, no live.
[00:36:53] Speaker B: I love it.
[00:36:54] Speaker A: That is super midlifer. We love paper. Oh, yeah, we love paper. We have notebooks. She still has her calendar, right? Yeah.
[00:37:03] Speaker C: See my whole day.
[00:37:05] Speaker A: Yeah, everything. Paper. Oh, love you.
[00:37:08] Speaker B: Paper. Yeah, we print stuff.
[00:37:10] Speaker A: We have printers.
[00:37:11] Speaker C: We don't do, like, airplane tickets and stuff like that, though.
[00:37:15] Speaker A: We're not there.
[00:37:16] Speaker B: Oh, so you, you don't use the, like E check in and the E ticket.
[00:37:21] Speaker C: We don't print the airplane.
[00:37:23] Speaker B: Good for you. Look at you. That's advanced.
[00:37:26] Speaker A: So advanced.
[00:37:27] Speaker B: So hip.
[00:37:28] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:37:29] Speaker B: So advanced. Oh, my gosh. Okay. Do you go into the bank to deposit checks?
[00:37:35] Speaker C: Lisa's husband does. That's the one thing we give him a hard time about.
[00:37:39] Speaker A: But not me. I photo the checks. But he will say, don't vote on that check. I want to go over to the bank. He loves the banker.
[00:37:46] Speaker B: Really? Well, that's something we might need to talk about. Right?
[00:37:50] Speaker A: And he reads the Sunday paper. He holds the Sunday paper. He loves the Sunday.
[00:37:54] Speaker B: So you still get a newspaper delivery on Sunday.
[00:37:58] Speaker A: And he's got our kids addicted. They love the paper. They love to touch the paper. She's an ebook. I'm a hard book. I love books and paper.
[00:38:07] Speaker B: Yeah, it took me a while to get into books, like read books on tape or whatever. I know not.
Yes, that's old. You know, the. The audiobooks is what it's called. Gosh, I just. I just did the. The ankle thing. But, like, I used the wrong. Yes. So the audiobooks. All right, those. Those have taken a while for me to get into. I still prefer hard copies, actually, if I' Fair enough.
[00:38:40] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:38:40] Speaker B: Yeah. Okay. This. This is a massive middle aged red flag for me for sure. You have transition lenses.
[00:38:49] Speaker C: I do. I don't like them, though. I don't know. I don't know how to use them without like, constantly, you know, this kind of situation. So.
[00:38:57] Speaker A: Yeah, that's. My flex is. I don't need readers.
[00:39:00] Speaker C: Oh, transition. Oh, my gosh. Midlife. For a moment right there, I thought you meant progressives.
[00:39:06] Speaker B: No, it's all good.
[00:39:07] Speaker C: I mean, transition lenses that turn.
[00:39:09] Speaker B: No, like two for one, you know, and they. They just.
[00:39:14] Speaker C: No, I gotta redeem myself. No, I do not. I have. I have progressives.
[00:39:18] Speaker B: Okay, well, I can accept those, but the. The ones that are like sunglasses slash glasses, they always look like this, like, cheeseball 70s kind of look. They haven't nailed that one into that.
[00:39:30] Speaker C: But I do not have that. Let the record show.
[00:39:32] Speaker B: Okay. All right. So you talked about finding expired carrots. Do you eat expired food?
[00:39:39] Speaker C: My daughter will come home from wherever she is and she'll just go through a cabinet.
[00:39:43] Speaker A: So.
[00:39:44] Speaker C: No, but it was embarrassing. I had some carrots from like 2007.
[00:39:48] Speaker B: Wow. That's. Yeah, I know.
[00:39:50] Speaker A: Gross.
[00:39:51] Speaker B: Gross.
[00:39:51] Speaker C: No. Well, nobody wanted them for that many years.
[00:39:54] Speaker A: I've still got teenagers at home. They eat everything before it expires. So.
[00:39:58] Speaker B: Yeah. Oh, My gosh. I have some friends, as they've aged, they've refused to throw out expired food, and one of them is just a massive offender. He's like, smell it. It just looks the same. It's gonna taste the same. This is. This is a scam for us to spend more money. And I'm like, this just sounds very old man. But, yeah, he loves expired condiments and all sorts of things and just thinks that it's a scam to go spend more money. And it's shelf scrap stable.
[00:40:28] Speaker A: So I'm looking for a much better way to die than expired mayonnaise. That's not how I want to go.
[00:40:34] Speaker B: Gross.
[00:40:35] Speaker A: That.
[00:40:35] Speaker C: That.
[00:40:35] Speaker B: That just sounds disgusting. Oh. Oh, my goodness. Okay. You know you're old when you have a replacement body part.
So, you know, like, lots of my friends, definitely, and it's getting earlier and earlier. The knee replacements, the hip replacements, People are getting bionic earlier.
Are you guys finding that, too?
[00:40:59] Speaker C: Among my friends, I am, but that is not my own personal experience.
[00:41:02] Speaker A: Yeah, I've lost a few organs in midlife. Like, I lost a gallbladder not too long ago and didn't even know you needed one. You don't. Yeah, that's what I learned. You don't need one. But I think that's part of it, is in midlife for our generation, we want to be active longer, and we don't want to go sit on a couch for the most part. And so to do that, you have to replace. It's like a car part. You know, you go in and you got to have it replaced every so many miles. And. And I think that was. You know, you can live with pain, or you can alter that piece of your body and be happier longer doing the things you love. And so, yes, we joke that at every party, somebody's telling us about who blew out their knee, especially around here with skiing so much, who got a new body part, who got a new hip, a new ankle, you know?
[00:41:50] Speaker B: Yeah, this is really strange, but it just came to mind. I was looking at someone's ankles, and they looked very. They didn't have a form so much like they. I guess it's called cankle. And I guess that's a sign of heart, like advanced heart disease, too. I did not know this. This was something that I just learned. So then I felt very bad that I was observing someone who was on their deathbed. But, yeah, I definitely think that our generations, the 40s, 50s, and 60s, we are more fit, more active, more proactive in managing our health than ever before. And I think the classic example there is the Golden Girls. And you look at all those ladies and you would say, oh yeah, they're in their 80s or 90s, and they were in their 50s and 60s during that show.
[00:42:43] Speaker A: They were in their 40s. Yeah.
[00:42:45] Speaker C: Such a disservice to those amazing actresses, you know? Yeah.
[00:42:49] Speaker B: I mean it. Absolutely. No, no slam. Except, wow, have things changed? Maybe they were Sprite and they could hike that mountain and they didn't have the dyes and the Botoxes and all the things that we do now. But my goodness, it just feels like age isn't always a reflection of ability anymore. Absolutely.
[00:43:12] Speaker A: Yeah. We're very much into the number is not as important as how you feel the health. How do you feel? Do you feel, you know, you can be 90 and feel 60 and so I don't think get. Our generation is getting as hung up on the number, but more the health.
[00:43:28] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. What? Have you guys seen that? Oh my gosh, I'm gonna forget the name of it. It's. It's on Netflix and it is a man who is like trying to live forever and he's doing all these like anti aging treatments and it's really freaky. Like he goes beyond what's tested in science and is doing really strange supplement routines. I think he has like 500 supplements a day. Really crazy. I'll, I'll drop a link in the show notes to that. He also has a podcast. He would be very interesting to dissect and talk about, but he wants to live forever.
[00:44:09] Speaker A: I could live healthy, I guess, but I feel like there's an end point. Yeah, there's definitely an end point.
[00:44:14] Speaker B: There's an end point.
And what is the end point? What is the sign you're at the end point?
[00:44:20] Speaker A: Probably the sign that you're halfway is the freeze, squeeze and sneeze.
[00:44:28] Speaker C: There's more to life than free squeeze. And there's more beyond free squeeze.
[00:44:32] Speaker A: Yeah, that's the half point. Yeah, yeah, definitely hit the half point. That's what I think.
[00:44:37] Speaker B: Oh my gosh. Yeah, yeah. Is over the hill 40 or 50 now.
[00:44:42] Speaker A: Depends on who you ask. If you ask a 40 year old, they'd say 50.
[00:44:46] Speaker C: Yeah, we, we've asked people before. What do you think is old and it's such a state of mind and a, you know, reflection of your health, you know. So, yeah, we have a lot of.
[00:44:55] Speaker A: Good role models too. I mean, I have a dad who's 80 who still single, water skis. The solemn course.
[00:45:01] Speaker B: No way.
[00:45:03] Speaker A: Well, in their teens, can't do that. So. So those role models, my mom plays tennis, they both play golf, but they're out there crushing it. And I think those role models have been different for our generation because my grandparents didn't do that. And so setting a new standard for us to see what aging could look like if you stay healthy and how much more fun they have being fit. And they had. We had 160-year-old birthday party for them for both their birthdays turning 80. And all their friends were going up and down stairs like it was nothing. I didn't even think about the fact that it was an entire room of 80 year olds because they're so fit and they're out there playing tennis and golf and basketball. And so I am grateful for that example because it shows me, oh, I don't have to sit on a couch. I can go do fun things. I just got to keep. Keep moving.
[00:45:53] Speaker B: Yeah. Gosh, I love that you didn't have to think about planning your event in a single story location. Gosh, you know, you're old when you have to do that. That's. That's a real deal there. No. No stairs allowed.
Oh, my gosh. Well, I, I could talk to you two forever, but I have, I have one last question for you each and, you know, take your time thinking through the answer.
No, I, you know, you're old when you have a labradoodle. That's. That's something that I'm going to say. That's a California thing. But everyone has these designer dogs. It's very strange. Um, okay, what do you think is the funniest thing about middle age?
[00:46:31] Speaker A: I don't know if it's funny. It's funny to me. You can get on the scale and have the same weight and you become a different shape. Your body, gravity is real in midlife. And so you feel really good about the number on your scale because you're like rocking this. And then your genes don't fit because everything's dropped lower. Or your shirt, now that used to fit a certain way doesn't fit that way because all your boobs have dropped. Like, all two of you.
[00:46:59] Speaker B: All of them.
[00:47:00] Speaker A: All of them. Depending on how many you have, everything's moving south. And I think it. You can cry, you can try and resist, or you can embrace it. And it's funny to go to clothing store and say, well, this is my size. And you put it on and it doesn't fit the same because gravity has taken over. So. And probably the funnest part of middle life is doing it with friends.
[00:47:26] Speaker B: Yeah, Yeah.
[00:47:26] Speaker A: I think being able to laugh at yourself and, and being able to call your friend and be like, what is happening? And they are making fun of the situation. There's no tears, there's laughter, there's joy, there's embracing that these lines tell stories and it's a story that I'm proud of. And yeah, I know, just embrace where you are.
[00:47:47] Speaker C: I think just the full on self awareness, you know, and owning it too. But sometimes you're like, oh, my gosh, no, I cannot do X, Y, Z. You know, I don't know. I don't really have anything that's super funny for me in midlife. I feel like it's super empowering and I like this phase. I like who I am right now, so. But I want to see the joy in all of it. So I try to find the funny in everything because laughter for me is the key. It's. It makes everything better.
[00:48:19] Speaker B: Yeah. There are thousands of funny moments, really, on a weekly basis that have to do with middle life. I'll close with this story. I had a friend call me and she said, karen, oh my gosh, no one told me my facial hair was going to get so intense and in like some crazy thick pieces. Should I pluck it or should I shave it? And, and I happen to have just asked an esthetician who was in my friend group, should you pluck or shave your hair? And she said, you know what, go get a men's razor and shave your face. It's the best way. And I thought, that is a great tip. I'm going to have to share that with everybody. But you know what? Who knew? Who knew? I think, well, I have the same approach as you two ladies in that this age is the best age. I wouldn't go back 20 years because I love so much where I'm at right now. I think our mission, US3, is just to spread the good news that middle age is funny. Yeah. There's some hard parts about it, but it is still a fantastic, lovely time to be a human. And let's, let's embrace it and get the most out of it.
[00:49:33] Speaker A: And the great hair migration is real. Your friend's eyebrows are going to drop down to her chin. She's going to grow a beard. Tell her she's. She's with us. We got you. An immense razor is a good tip.
[00:49:44] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah. Who knew? Who knew? All right, ladies, well, thank you so much for joining us. How can our audience get connected with you? Tell us about your Instagram channel.
[00:49:56] Speaker A: We can be found at Midlifers Underscore on Instagram and we would love you to come be part of the conversation. We're having fun.
[00:50:04] Speaker B: Awesome. We'll drop that link into the show notes as well for you all. Thank you, ladies. I hope we can have you back. And I cannot wait to continue to see all the good content you're putting out on Instagram. I love it.
[00:50:17] Speaker C: Thank you so much for having us. This has been really fun.
[00:50:20] Speaker A: Thank you.
[00:50:20] Speaker B: Good, good. All right. Thank you.
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