Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Foreigna. It is so great to have you here at 3564. Welcome to the show.
[00:00:11] Speaker B: Thank you. Thrilled to be here.
[00:00:13] Speaker A: Well, you have expertise that all of our audience members want to hear about. You are an expert in getting unstuck on finding and claiming your true identity. And in fact, your formal title is neurosomatic practitioner and identity architect. Tell me more about that.
[00:00:36] Speaker B: Yes, so I, I moved a little bit away from the coach word just because when people think of a coach, you think of like a life coach, a business coach, a health coach, a financial coach. And the work that I do is really so all encompassing because it's not about a thing, it's about all of the things. And so if you think about like a psychiatrist on one side and a life coach on the other, the work that I do falls in the middle. So I am not a licensed medical doctor. I just wanna be clear about that. But all the life coachy stuff, yes, that's part of it. But so much of that is just so surface level. And this is so much about, like, let's go in and figure it out and clear all the stuff that's keeping you from the life and love that's meant for you without going back into the story and the drama that caused the pain in the first place. Because that just, that just keeps us stuck. And we just reinstall that neurology over and over again.
And people get caught up in that loop and then they wonder why they can't move forward.
[00:01:31] Speaker A: What is a classic sign that you are stuck? How do you know that you're stuck?
[00:01:36] Speaker B: So, you know, it's, it's different for everybody, but I mean, there's a lot of ways. So I had a call with a woman yesterday and she, she's like, you know, I, I was a nurse and I did that for years. And I. We have, I'm married, we have kids, I. And she said I. And I've, she's like, I've been in therapy, I've been reading the books. And she's like, I just, I don't know what it is, but I know that there's stuff, like subconscious, unconscious stuff that's keeping me from actually doing and getting the things I want. So sometimes it's like a. Knowing that there's more meant for you in your life, but you don't know what that is. Sometimes you have an inkling, but you, you have no idea how to get there. And oftentimes that's because there's so much evidence that you're too much, you're not enough. You're too old, you're too late, you're too broken. You start things and never finish it anyway. So what's the point, right? I get that all the time. People will say, well, what if it doesn't work for me? And I said, well, the only way it can't work for you is if you literally don't show up to talk.
And they're like, yeah, but I start things. And I said, yes, but this is not you being left to your own devices, right? This is not a module or a program. This is you and me co creating your life based on what it is that you truly want. But first we have to figure out what that is. And that's a big, that's a big piece of it because most people, when I say on the other side of this, what are you doing or not doing differently than you're doing or not doing right now? What lights you up? What do you see? And that often brings tears and often the answer, I don't even know. So there's different ways that it can show up.
[00:03:05] Speaker A: That. That's an interesting comment. I don't even know. I actually want to dive into that space specifically. One of the things that I've personally even to this day struggle with is understanding what do I want for myself versus what does everyone else think I need, what does my parents think I need? What do my kids think I need, My colleague, my best friends and. And then you read things and you hear things and trying to decipher is this what I want or is this what they, they want? How do you go through that process? I, I need some help here.
[00:03:43] Speaker B: I love your question. And so I'm going to walk you through something that you, we can literally talk about that can actually give you the ability in like under a minute or two to know if, if you're making the right decision. How does that.
[00:03:55] Speaker A: Oh my gosh. Okay, let's do it. I'm, I'm excited.
[00:03:58] Speaker B: So before we actually do this together, I want to preface a couple of things cuz it's important. So the difference between our conscious mind and our unconscious mind is such that everything from the neck up is our consciousness, right? It's everything we know we know makes us who we are. It's our goal setter, we use it all day long, right? It's 10%, which means everything from the neck down the rest of our body is. The other 90% is our unconscious mind. And if the conscious is our goal setter, the Unconscious is the goal, Getter. It's the operating system. And it's also the literal library of everything we've ever experienced. So my methodology is the clear to create method. My tagline has always been your very best life. Whether we've been best friends for 40 years or we met yesterday. I want you to live your version of your very best life. And that is different for every single one of us, right?
[00:04:44] Speaker A: Yes.
[00:04:45] Speaker B: Your version of your very best life is different than what your parents, your kids, your bestie, your colleagues think you know, that it's not the same.
[00:04:52] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:53] Speaker B: So. Yeah, but the truth is you can't go from being held back by past pain and old stories and old patterns and old stuff to just living your very best life. It doesn't work that way. We have to clear before we can create. Right? We have to clear the story to create the life. How many times do you hear people say, I want a different story? And the answer to that is, then you have to stop telling the old one. And we have to clear the cycles to create the confidence. Right. What you just shared is so common. It's like I don't even know if I can trust my own decision making. I thought I knew, and look how that turned out. And I don't know if this is actually a red flag or if I'm just being ridiculously picky or maybe this is okay. Like, we go through all of this stuff, so we have to clear those cycles to create the confidence to trust ourselves again.
[00:05:38] Speaker A: So when you say clearing, what does this mean?
[00:05:40] Speaker B: Yeah, so I'll get to that in just a second. So clear, create, and claim is then the process. Right. But before we can clear anything, we have to get the clarity. And this is where we have to start. So I want you to imagine if we were going to a restaurant, we were going to have dinner together, and we sat down and the server came over and asked what we wanted. And we ordered a beverage, some protein a side, and a salad. And he brought us an iced tea, some chicken, some roasted carrots, and a Caesar salad. And we got precisely what we ordered. We got exactly what we ordered, got exactly what we asked for. But we wanted a glass of Chardonnay and a piece of halibut and some roasted asparagus and an arugula salad with fresh figs and goat cheese. So you see the difference? Most. Most people never actually get what they want. They almost get there, but they don't actually get what they want because they don't have the clarity.
[00:06:30] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:06:31] Speaker B: Back to you. Specifically in your question, because this is, you know, this is, it's, it's part of this work in such a deep way. So we do something called the Clarity Codex menu. So we create your menu together. And part of that is we start with a values elicitation and understanding. So let's say we're going to play with doing this around love and relationships. So we would talk about what are your most important values for you around love and relationship? That without those it cannot be. And so you'll start talking and I'll be typing it up and then we reorder them only the top 10, because anything lower that isn't an actual core value.
And in life, as you're going through things and as we evolve and change and grow, sometimes the hierarchy of some of those values change places, sometimes they change altogether. Except for your top value never changes. And so for me as a person and for my business and in the world, my values are love, generosity, belief in what's possible impact, and being a magnet for miracles. And that's my favorite thing to teach. So we do a full values elicitation and get really clear about what that is for you. And then we move on to your non negotiables and your desires. And non negotiables are non negotiable. They are not the thing that when it comes to it. And then you say, well, maybe it's okay and maybe it'll get better because what if nobody else loves me and what if this is it for me because I'm this age or blah, blah, you know, all those things. Non negotiables are non negotiable non negotiables. You know, it's different for everybody could be around. They have to love dogs, they have to have some spiritual connection, they have to have good relationship with family, whatever it is. So that non negotiable list can be things that they have to have to be there or cannot be there, right? Depending on the context. And then the desires list is like, that's the magic wand, fairy dust, like all the stuff that. And sometimes that's the hardest list for my clients. They can, they can do the values and do the non negotiables, but they're just like, I wouldn't have any idea. I've never been, I've never experienced it. Pick up a book, like, look around you when you're out in public and when you see something that you go, I wish someone did that for me. That's on that desires list, right? So for me, my husband surprised Me for our two year anniversary and we went horseback riding through a vineyard, had a wine tasting, and then went to Indian Springs, which is my favorite place in California. I love horses, I love wine, I love Indian Springs. And while he loves Indian Springs too, like he's not, he could take or leave it with horses, but he thought about the things that would make me so happy. And that's what I wished for my whole life because I love doing that for everybody else. So what I would have you do is really get clear. And let's do your values and let's do your non negotiables and let's do your, your desires list. And then here's what happens. Anytime someone comes into your life, whether it's a Roman potential romantic partner, a new friend, a business partner, current friends, family members, it doesn't matter. You can run them through that codex and in a minute you will know if they, it's even a possibility that they get to be in your space. Because if the values don't line up, that's a clean no. If there's anything on the non negotiable list or not on the list, depending on the context, it's a clean no. So when you can make clean yes and clean no decisions without having to tap into that part of you that you don't trust yet because you know you're not there yet. And it's just, it takes you out of the middle. Because when we are in the middle, that's the maybe that's the devil. That's where all the drama and friction and noise and decision fatigue comes in because we're like, I don't know, should we do this? Should we not do this? Is this right? Is it not right? Am I compromising the things I'm. I don't know. And then we either make a decision out of fear or we don't make a decision at all because we're just paralyzed by the fact that we're just spinning out because we don't know what the answer is. So just that one piece would give you the clarity to know again in a minute if somebody was even, this is even a potential that they get to be in your life, which saves you so much time and energy.
[00:10:28] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah.
[00:10:29] Speaker B: And you, you know that, you know, you're not gonna waste weeks and months and years giving energy and time to someone who's not your person.
[00:10:35] Speaker A: How many adults that you see that do go back into.
Let's just talk about maybe just the dating scene alone. How many have to do this exercise but do people already have this in their back pocket or do most not?
[00:10:50] Speaker B: No one has. I mean, I haven't worked with a single person. I mean, I've had a couple clients say, I have, like, a list of, like, my dream. Like, you know, when you're doing the Brene Brown weekend thing or whatever, and you write a list of, like. Which is great. I did that years ago, too. But they don't have this. And every single person who I do this exercise with, they're like, I've never actually. Because I'll say, like, when they say honesty, or they'll say, you know, spirituality. Okay, what does that mean to you specifically? And we go deeper than a word because most people have never done that before for anything. And so they don't know because they've never taken the time to actually even think about it or consider it. So, yeah, nobody has this ready to go. And again, it's a really incredible experience because it gives you insight that you've not had about yourself. And it kind of connects some dots.
And people will come to me and say, I keep marrying the same person in a different body, or I keep dating the same person in a different body, and I'm so tired of it. And there's a very specific reason that that happens. And there's also a very simple way to fix it. But oftentimes we're focused on all the things we don't want. And by that I mean every day, we think between 65,000 and 85,000 thoughts. 90% of those thoughts are recycled. They're the same thoughts we thought yesterday and the day before and week four, right in the middle of the night. And the problem with that is 75% of those thoughts are negative. And I get a lot of pushback on that because my clients are amazing and emotionally intelligent and brilliant, and they're like, I am so good on mindset. Like, I've done all the mindset things.
But when we look at it and they're like, I am so clear. I don't ever want to be in a relationship where I'm not valued and adored. I don't ever want to be in another relationship where I don't feel like I can trust them. So I always have that pit in my stomach, and I become psycho, and I'm, like, checking their phones, and I don't want to be in this financial position. I don't want to be in this job that I hate. I don't want this extra weight, and I can't get it off, and I'M doing all the things. I don't, I don't, I don't. The problem is the unconscious mind just knows what you're focused on. So if there's, you know, abusive relationships, non trusting debt jobs that you hate, you know, all the, and it's like giving directions to, when you jump in the car, if you have a nav system or your Google Maps app, you give it an address and it takes you there. It's the same thing with our unconscious mind. Every single time we're thinking or focused on any of, on anything, we're giving directions. So if we hold a thought for longer than 17 seconds with emotion, it either creates new neural pathways or reinforces the current ones.
[00:13:20] Speaker A: We've spent some time in some past episodes around positive, negative thinking. And, and how your brain tries to find what you are thinking to prove yourself right. And, and so it, it's such a dangerous pattern to get into that negativity and, and negative self talk. What, what do most middle agers say to themselves that is negative? What are you hearing that middle aged men and women struggle with as far as the, the repeated thoughts that are negative, not worthy.
[00:13:52] Speaker B: I'm not enough. I kind of feel hopeless. I'm unlovable. Clearly there's lots of evidence there. Right? So, and then a lot of UN's and lesses, whatever that is for them. And sometimes it takes a bit of digging to uncover what those UN's and lesses are. Sometimes people are really clear about it and sometimes they, they don't know what's underneath. I'll ask people all the time, tell me what you want. They tell me everything they don't want every single time. Because that's the way our brain work. But it's also the thing that keeps you from getting what you want in life. So are you familiar with the emotional guidance scale?
[00:14:26] Speaker A: No. No I'm not.
[00:14:27] Speaker B: Okay, so there's an emotional guidance scale and it, it has a upward spiral and a downward spiral and the very top high vibrating frequency emotions are like joy, knowledge, love, appreciation, gratitude. The lowest vibrating. So like let's say that's one and let's call the lowest one like 22 or 25, I can't remember. And that's like victim fear, you know, hopelessness. And then it goes up from there. So then there's rage and then there's anger and then there's boredom and then there's. So it just keeps going up step by step and then you get to the upward spiral step by step by step. All the Way to the top. Now what's so interesting is that when I, when I lay that out for people and I say, okay, let's look at where you hanging out most of the day. Like when you think about your thoughts, are they positive and self affirming? Are they anxious and worry and doubtful? Is it judgmental of yourself, of others? Like where are you hanging out? And consciously we often think we're hanging out in the like pretty high vibe frequency emotions. But unconsciously we're hanging out down in the depths. So imagine what is your favorite music, your favorite type of music?
[00:15:31] Speaker A: Gosh, I love all music but I'm really into, I like dance music.
[00:15:36] Speaker B: Right.
[00:15:36] Speaker A: Right now it's my recent thing, so I like the up, the high energy kind of thing.
[00:15:43] Speaker B: I love it. And then what is your least favorite genre of music or music you can't stand?
[00:15:47] Speaker A: Gosh, probably heavy metal.
[00:15:49] Speaker B: Okay, same, same. So I want you to imagine that emotional guidance skill we talked about, but I want you to imagine that it's a radio station or it's a SiriusXM and everything that you want for yourself in your life is hanging up at SiriusXM111 which is all dance music, all, all the time. Like it's the best. But when you're stuck down on the Metallica station in this low frequency vibe. Can you hear dance music on the Metallica station? Not a channel.
So how are you going to change that? Well, you have to change the channel, you have to increase the frequency and that's what this does so that you can. Because we don't get what we want, we get who we are. And when we're hanging out in Metallica frequency, those are the people, the experiences, the resources, the opportunities that show up. So it's not a matter of just positive thinking. You can vision board and, and affirm all you want. And I love those things, I do them. Yeah. But if you don't tap into the unconscious piece and clear those patterns and those cycles from an unconscious standpoint, then there's really no point. It's kind of like people that say to me I've been in therapy for years and you know, I've done all this work and then life happens and, and because it always does and then bam, I go right back to my old ways. And some people say I get triggered or some people say I thought I had done all this work and then this thing happened and this person said this thing and I just went back about 10 years in my, you know, progress. Well, because it blow out neurology and strategy and behavior and how we think and how we show up and how we occur in the world. If you don't replace it, the unconscious mind can't fill in the blank. So, again, so much of this work focuses really heavily on awareness and clarity. Right. The whole. The life coach piece, which is great, that's the foundation for any kind of growth or transformation or change. But if I don't give you the skills to go with the knowledge, you're just stuck in a maddening circle. And in my opinion, that's even worse because you're like, okay, now I know this. What the hell do I do with it? Like, how do I actually do something with it? Because you don't really. Haven't replaced all of that.
[00:17:51] Speaker A: Right? Yeah.
[00:17:52] Speaker B: And so that is the critical piece. And it's like, if you're gardening and you see a weed and you, like, pull the top off, it's gonna grow right back. Right. It's the same thing. So if we want to actually change things and live the life and have the love and the wealth and the health and all the things that we want, we can't just take the top off of it. Right. We have to actually get it out at the root. And so that means we have to do it differently. We can't read another book or think another thing or talk about it more. We have to tap into that other part, that unconscious mind.
[00:18:25] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:25] Speaker B: You know, it's. My point is, is you cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. You just can't.
[00:18:33] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:18:34] Speaker B: And it's not your fault, and it's not something that you did. You know, there's a lot of also this stigma of, like, what's wrong with me? I have done so much work. I'm intelligent. Like, why can't I snap out of it or figure it out or whatever? Because you can't. If you could have, you would have, Right. You're an amazing human. It's. It's not about doing more. It's about actually clearing out all the dysfunction detox at a cellular level again without going back into any of the pain that caused the problem in the first place. So that we can release all that because there's no room for what we want. Right. It's like a closet. It's full of crap of old clothes that you say, someday I'm gonna wear these. There's not room for anything new and cute and fun.
It's the same with our internal wiring. Right. If we don't throw out the expired ways of Thinking and the identities that maybe, you know, we're stuck to something from 20 years ago. Who. The person we were when we got married or the person we were when we, you know, started our career. We're not that person at this stage of the game. And so who are you now? Is the question, outside of the conditioning and the noise and the story and the trauma, who are you now? And so once we can discover that, then we get to create your life around it, and then you get to actually claim it and own it and, you know, embody it and just really integrate it. And so when you get to that space, you no longer need that external permission. But most importantly, this is where you fall in love with yourself again. And you trust yourself.
[00:19:58] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah.
[00:19:59] Speaker B: Confidently hold boundaries and expertly communicate your needs instead of taking care of everybody else and just really deepen the richness in every single one of your relationships so that you get to integrate that in your decisions and who you spend time with and what you do and what you're creating. And then you get to love and lead and live from this new frequency of you.
[00:20:20] Speaker A: Yeah, this. This really reminds me a lot of just the traditional midlife crisis.
Who am I? Is this who I want to be? And how can I become who I truly want to be and live that life? Do you believe in midlife crises?
[00:20:38] Speaker B: I mean, I. I laugh when you. When you said that, because that's what you think of. Right. Forever. People are like, oh, yeah, buy a sports car. Get a girlfriend that's 20 years younger than you, whatever it is. I think collectively, women and men are taking care of ourselves better than probably any time in history. And I think that when we look at midlife, often what happens is you have the identity that you were, you've outgrown, and it's not aligned anymore. And so we see a lot of transition and changing happening in this time, whether it's empty nesting or a divorce or the end of a significant friendship, which we don't talk about enough.
You know, I. In a million years, if you would have told me this one particular friend who had been my best friend since we were nine years old, right now, like, we're. That that relationship is over. And I would have said, you're insane. You're crazy. That will never happen. And I think all of these pieces kind of become the midlife crisis, if you will. But the beautiful thing is it doesn't have to be a crisis. And just because it's always been a certain way has absolutely no bearing on that. It has to stay that way. Like, we can literally switch that in a moment. And, like, back to what you said. Who am I now? Who do I like? We get, you know, between now and dead, this is it. Like, this is it. And we don't know when that is. So do you want to continue to be miserable and resentful and lonely and angry and blaming the world and living in the past and this person did this, or would you like to let all that show and experience alchemical forgiveness, which doesn't let anybody off the hook, but it takes your power back. It gives you the ability to be present and have joy and move forward. It's like, you know, you're drinking the poison every single day and you're hoping they die.
And that's not how it works, but it will eat you alive. And then you're this resentful, negative person that nobody wants to be around, but you get to choose differently. And it's such an amazing thing because it's really as simple and complex as that. So I have clients. I have a really big range right now. I have 31, no, 32 and 71. So the youngest and the oldest. And then most of my clients fall in the 40s, 50s, 60s. Okay, 32 year old and the 71 year old. While there's differences, obviously in lived experience and, you know, having young children and not having children, a lot of the feelings and the fears and the, and the self talk and the in the middle of the night, doubting, it's all the same. You mentioned it before about, about the brain, but specifically the reticular activating system is the thing that's the little bouncer in our brain. So what we're focused on, it's looking for that. Right? The brain doesn't know the difference between something that's actually happened and something that you visualize with all the emotion. Right? We see that with athletes all the time. So once your brain has experienced this, you know, whatever it is, December 31, 2025 or sooner, I will be celebrating booking a trip to the Cayman Islands. Okay, great. What has to happen in the second before you could call me and say, I'm going? You got an email with your flight confirmation and your villa reservation. Okay? So that's the piece that we actually visualize because that's where all the emotion is like, so what do you hear? What do you see? What noises are happening? Like, what's going on in that moment? And you can feel it, and you feel it and everybody's like, smiling. And we install that and now your brain is like, okay, cool. So now it's paying attention to all the things to make things that happened versus nothing ever works out for me. I always end up in the same situation. Everybody leaves me, everybody takes advantage of me. I never get to go on and vacate. Like, it's just. It just changes your entire physical experience.
[00:24:22] Speaker A: I was just visualizing getting tickets and doing something that I've always wanted to do. When you were saying that, it really, it. It is a. Feels like such a lighter, more joyful place and like the possibility. Right. Of living in that. What could happen? This is so cool. Amazing. It feels really good. It does, yeah.
[00:24:42] Speaker B: Every emotion has a frequency and it's heavy. So even if I asked you to close your eyes and I said some words to you and I had to ask you how you feel, and then I asked tell you a different set of words and ask you how you feel, it's completely different. It's why we can't calibrate off of emotion, because emotion is fleeting and we can actually manufacture it in any moment. You just manufactured absolute joy and bliss in your body, thinking about going wherever you're going to go. And I could, yeah, it could have you go into a memory of something that's really sad and you're going to feel it. Right. So we don't make decisions and calibrate on emotion. We make decisions and calibrate on what is what we want, what can we be doing or not doing differently than we're doing or not doing right now that's actually aligned with the person that we are and that we're becoming so that situations don't take us out of that place of owning it and being in that power instead of being at the mercy of and the victim of. And that's place. Right.
[00:25:41] Speaker A: When you feel like you're in charge of your own destiny. There's something that feels so good about that, and I know the difference between those two feelings. And it feels so good to feel like you have the power to create the life you want instead of. Instead of being a victim of something that, that you don't want. It feels so good. It really does. What would you say to a middle ager who is recently gone through a big life change? Maybe they have gotten divorced, maybe they've lost a job.
Maybe, you know, their parents have passed away and they're feeling like they're stuck and they need to get out of it. What is, what is like basic quick advice that you could give somebody.
[00:26:25] Speaker B: You know, I would say, number one, really look at where your thoughts are and reevaluate what's important to you. And between now and dead, what are your non negotiables, what are your desires? And it can be for life. It doesn't have to just be for a relationship. And the other thing I would do is I would. I think everyone in the world should take the Extraordinary Love Index. It's my diagnostic assessment and it answers the question, what's standing between you and extraordinary love? And that can be self love, it can be romantic love, it can be love inside of your friendships. But it looks at nine key areas and it's 40 questions. So it's not a two minute, what Disney princess are you? Like, give yourself good 15 minutes to do it. But then I send you a 28 page personalized report showing you all of those things and where you are and what you might be experiencing in your life right now and what's the cost of staying there and what can you do to start moving yourself out of that into the direction that you want to be moving. And so the Ellie is available to all of your listeners as my gift on my website.
[00:27:27] Speaker A: Wow, great.
[00:27:28] Speaker B: So go take it. I actually review every single result because it's so fascinating, the data.
[00:27:33] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, that sounds really cool. We'll drop a link in the show notes so all of the listeners can access that. And you said expect about 15 minutes and you get quite a detailed report on, on you.
[00:27:46] Speaker B: You get insight into you that you've never had.
[00:27:49] Speaker A: Wow, wow. I'm looking forward to taking that. Don't take the Ellie.
Yeah, I will, I will. You know, one of the things that you keep on mentioning in our conversation is you have personally had massive transformation in your life. So you are a testament to, to changing these thought patterns and really living the life you want. It sounds like.
[00:28:12] Speaker B: Yes, absolutely. I mean, I had a very tumultuous divorce. I had a father that was never around, who broke lots of promises, who never showed up, who never did anything. I created this work first for me because back in therapy, you know, it's like all I was either sad or angry and it's like therapy has its place, but it won't move you forward and it won't heal that unconscious old story stuff. So I was able to fully take my power back.
[00:28:38] Speaker A: Wow, that's so cool. I love that. Rihanna, what are the best ways for our listeners to get in touch with you? Are you taking new clients? Tell us everything.
[00:28:49] Speaker B: Yes, yes, yes. Rhiannamalia.com is the website you can find me There the Ellie is there. You can learn, you can get in touch, you can sign up for the newsletter. You can do all the things and then the socials. Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, YouTube @Rhiannamalia. And yes, I am taking clients. My work is very intimate. So it's not a group thing. It's all one to one and it's by application only to make sure that, you know, we can really serve you at the highest level.
[00:29:15] Speaker A: Great. Awesome. I do follow you on socials and it's. It's always good to see your tidbits come through, you know, every couple days with some advice and it's so good. So thanks for what you're doing. I think so many people need more yous in the world.
[00:29:33] Speaker B: Thank you. Such a pleasure.
[00:29:35] Speaker A: Well, we'll make sure to drop everything into the show notes that Rihanna has mentioned.
Thanks so much for coming, Rihanna.
[00:29:43] Speaker B: Thank you.
[00:29:44] Speaker A: It was good to have you.
[00:29:45] Speaker B: So wonderful to be with you. Thank you so much.
[00:29:47] Speaker A: And that brings us to the end of another episode.
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Remember, it's never too late, you're not too old and you're definitely not dead.
